What do I have to know to work with Parley?
- Wednesday, May 25, 2016
- By Bobbi Hoadley
The first thing you need to know is that you don't have to come to us, we can come to you and we may ask to meet in a variety of settings. You're welcome to come to our office for meetings once the Analysis is done but we still may want to practice some changes in a community setting.
Parley's Consultant appointments are not limited to 50 minute sessions, because we have work to do and sometimes that takes time. Within reason, we interact on an as-needed basis during business hours and we make ourselves available to deal with problems as soon as they arise. We adjust our hours when possible to suit your needs and schedule. We also work using email, phone or Skype if that is convenient.
Our involvement in the beginning is more intensive and over time we become less and less involved so you can prove to yourself and significant others, that you can do it, without our help.
We aren't concerned about your IQ. Parley has a reputation for working with very bright individuals, and we work equally well with people who have limited educational capacity.
Be prepared for homework which we’ll make easy, relaxing and even fun. An underlying foundation of our work is that all living beings learn to adapt to their environments – the important word there is “learn.” If cats and dogs can become stars on YouTube, you can learn a few new tricks too. Typically, you do homework with or without help, for not more than 5-10 minutes at a time. Sometimes homework is taking data (counting) and watching a graph miraculously appear, sometimes it is study, and sometimes it is practice at doing something.
Throughout our work we encourage you to take charge and direct your support, particularly if you have paid supporters. You need to know how to self-manage and self-advocate with reasonable and accountable behaviour. If you need others to see you differently or treat you differently, we will help you to know how to do a good job of saying what you mean, and to be confident enough to say it well. The people who care about you will see it for the progress it is.
Whether or not you are directing supports, good people-skills and communication skills are part of your learning. They enhance all actions, interactions, and reactions. Don’t hope (or worry) that we might turn you into someone you are not – we’ll work together to fit the skills you need, into your unique style.